Honey Monthsary!

Today marks the 17th monthsary that me and honey have been together.  We met officially on May 9, but honey didn't like 9, so we decided 8 is a much better number.  8 marks infinity, no beginning, no end.  The road we chose isn't easy, and the pride we had to eat was big for swallowing, but the sweetness after digestion is well worth it. =)


Admittedly, he's the longest partner I've ever had.  I did promise to take care of this relationship, as long as it was worth fighting for (drama).


Love you, honey. ♥ ♥ ♥


PS - I'm still waiting for your HEAT treat. hmf. hehehehehe




location: Blenz Coffee, Megamall

My Baby Mac*

No words. purely yabang lang, please bear with me. hihihihihihihih

:)

People are People (part 1)

I first gained exposure in dealing with people when I was with San Miguel.  I didn't consider my stay with PricewaterhouseCoopers as dealing with audit clients tend to be one-sided, these clients have vested interest in me.  My clients were in their best behavior when i was around, afraid that I might issue a disclaimer to their financial statements! They treated me to lunch, showed me their records upon request, I was their VIP, so to say.  It was with San Miguel that reality smacked me in the face.  That I was no longer somebody's guest.. that I was a mere employee of a big multinational company.

As an auditor, we tend to be idealistic.  What is written per GAAP is the rule, so naturally, I applied my learnings with the biggest manufacturer of liquor in the country.  It started with the expense reports of our salesman.  As a finance personnel, you review the expenses incurred by these frontmen in our industry, and I disapproved some of these claims (e.g. claiming of lavatory expenses, in short, trip to the cr at a posh establishment in Cebu), to the ire of these guys.  These expense reports are approved by the sales manager and routed to finance for final checking and disbursement.  One time, their sales manager called me up, and told me 'Are you Hush?' 'Yes, sir' was my response.  'Who are you to disapprove the expenses that I approved??'.  It was a blow to my face.  I immediately ran to my finance head and laid down the cards why I did such a move before that sales manager could call her up.  It was with my finance head that I got moral support, she explained to me that what I did was correct, that we are the check and balance of the organization.  Without her, I would have been demoralized.  With this strong foundation implanted in me, I learned I would have to face more intimidation as I stepped up the Corporate ladder.

Since the economy that time was bleak (hmmm.. I think this still applies now hehehe), there were rumors that the finance organization in our division for both Visayas and Mindanao  were to be merged.  Employees were biting their nails and when the Company offered early retirement, majority of them availed, my head being one of them.  So the Company was looking for someone to step up to her shoes, and I was picked together with a Davaoeno lady to vie for that position.  She had with her 4 years work experience in the Company while I only had a year, but she didn't have any exposure to the manufacturing aspect of our Company and this was the critical advantage I had over her and my winning streak that landed me the coveted role (plus I did dress to impress the Corporate bosses, she didn't even donned a blazer!).  The day after, she tendered her resignation, and I was crippled with one leg for our Mindanao operations.  My boss in Manila said to let her go, and that she might be emotional over the outcome of the promotion.  If people decide to leave the organization, let them be, it is futile to hold on to somebody who you know have grudges already.


Manning the VisMin Finance was hard.  Literally hard.  I had to work from 8am to 12mn, to catch up on deliverables.  I learned what it was to be a Corporate slave, flying back and forth from Cebu, Davao, Iloilo, Boracay and other parts of VisMin, but what took a toll on me was the morale of my team.  I had only 1 staff in Mindanao, 1 in Western Visayas, 1 in Eastern Visayas and 3 in Central Visayas.  I knew at the back of my mind that they want out, but I had to find ways to persuade them not to.  Staff were crying with the undeserved poundings of sales personnel and I had to set discussions with these people.  Logistics was unbearable and couldn't account for the variances in inventories and meetings were always a debate on the whys and whens of the problems faced by the Plant.  Aside from this, my boss took a 'liking' in me and decided to send me out to Manila to attend a court hearing (the defense attorney even asked: 'how old are you?', I responded, '24'. 'Aren't you young to be handling the Finance Division?' which was of course objected by my lawyer hehehe).


One time, a staff of mine approached me that he was not able to accomplish his task.  My mind was full of things and in my annoyance, I literally did the work for him, having Lloyd stand at my side to see how simple it was to do.  Lloyd then lamented that how come he is not that good enough to do such task and when he sees me doing it, it seemed simple enough..  My heart melted.  I was not considerate with him, that I didn't take into account that he was just a fresh graduate, and despite him being a CPA also, he didn't have the training I had over the years.


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I learned that the most difficult task in any organization is not the worksheets and computation that you do, it's the people.  I've outlined the basics.  People tend to intimidate you when they know they have something that you don't, and get emotional when things don't go their way.  We need to persuade them when matters go amiss while considering that each individual have their own unique profiles. 


I'm not a people-expert, but it's noteworthy to review on my experiences when the the time comes when I need them.


My Manila encounter next.  Believe me, Cebu and Manila orientation is way way different.


Hush, hush for now*

Hush is One =)

October 4 marks my first month as a blogger. =)


Not bad.  It is indeed a good medium for my thoughts, an outlet for my frustrations, an excuse to be busy, manner to sharpen my skills, channel to connect to people, instrument to share ideals and reality and among other else, an expression for my love.  This is of course, in no particular order. hehe


Warm feelings, hushkins* 

Cheats

'I don't believe in love; I believe in fucking. It's honest, it's efficient. You get in and out with the maximum of pleasure and minimum of bullshit. Love is something straight people tell themselves they're in so they can get laid, and then they end up hurting each other because it was all based on lies to begin with.'

  Brian Kinney, queer as folks

Sometimes I'm inclined to believe in Brian.  I often think that gays don't know how to love, that we let our balls rule our hearts, and not the other way around.  That everything revolves around lust, of satiating the need for flesh, that emotions are traded when the next cute guy comes along.  The need to troop down to Malate and check every guy's ass, dance and flirt, and though we are tagged as 'in a relationship', we excuse ourselves that we are just merely accompanying a lonely friend, or catching up with old acquaintances.. and when a hottie passes by, our eyes wander and we wonder, were we much in a rush to get hitched, or entertain the idea of why not be a cheat?

Whenever me and honey do malling, it's always certain that I see his eyes check out every dude that we encounter.  I don't mind (because I do the same thing), and I've come to accept that it is part of a complicated relationship that gays get into.  Probably if honey was my first bf, then I'd make tampo and be the cause of a petty fight, but it isn't just worth it.  Besides, it's not as if we are able to reach climax by staring at the guy!  I do know that some couples take measures on this, such as Fern's bf.  They had a huge fight when Fern's attempted to lock gaze at a certain cutie at the Mall of Asia.  Since then, they opted to do malling in Glorietta. hahahahaha

Do you guys check each other's mobile phones?  We don't.  Again, to avoid meaningless fights.  I don't want to initiate something which I am also guilty of.  It started when I was entertaining this cute barista and honey got hold of my cp and read it.  I did some alibi, which was pathetic, and ever since, we agreed not to mind our respective cps.  Hmmmm, unfortunately, I can't keep my hands to myself and often when honey's not looking, I checked his mobile, and though my heart aches at the flirty messages of hi's and hello's and queries of his whereabouts, again, I'm not that innocent.

Then, some gay acquaintance told me earlier that he does have a plan to wed a GIRL and bear offsprings.  I asked why?  His answer was simple.  'Who will take care of you when you or your partner gets old?  Admittedly, I love to suck but let's face it, we won't be young forever.'  So does this mean that our relationship is just superficial?  

So why do I continue to succumb to the idea of being in a relationship?  I don't know.  Look at Justin's perseverance to Brian in Queer.  But then again, it's just a series, for goodness sake! =(

Love. Lust and ... Lost.  Hush hush for now*

Love the weather

It's nice to love love the weather today, not too rainy, nor too sunny.. it's damp, but manageable.  It brings out the good mood in me =)


Here's wishing to a good Friday to everyone! 


Hush hush for now, hushkins! 

Girl Trouble

No.  Not me, hushkins. hehehe


It's my little bro.  He was online in FB and naturally I said hi and asked on how things are in Cebu.  Ok daw (so much for effort hehehe) and he asked how things are with me, and my new mac.  I said I'm immensely enjoying it, yet need to be cautious on my spendings thereafter.


He suddenly turned serious.  He said he is having trouble with Venus, his more than 6-months girlfriend.  Apparently, he's getting tired of her tirades, that he can't understand her of late.


I queried what kind of tirades are we talking about.


Everything.  'Gagmay na sayop ako buhaton, bikil dayon (little things I neglect, big deal towards her), but if she's the one at fault, it's as if nothing happens.


Does she apologize?


NOPE.  All capital letters was his response.




Oh.  Then you need to talk things through with her.


She won't listen.  I even plan to end things with her.


No, I countered.  Go someplace quiet where you can have a lovely dinner with her.  Discuss with her your concerns.  Tell her that you need to work things out with her, that this is becoming a concern.  Tell her that she needs to understand that your priority now is your review studies, that it is essential that you pass that licensure examination, that such petty things need not bother you.


I won't get affected, he responded.  Maybe a day or two after the break-up, then I'll bounce back.  Besides, it isn't interfering with my studies.


No, talk to her still.


What if she doesn't listen?


Then it's high time you cool things off with her.  More time to think if it's worth the relationship you're both into.


You're right, kuya.


You're young, little bro.  You are gwapo, and you need not worry of girls.  They'll come running to you once you get that license.  Seriously, it's a man-eat-man world out here, you better come prepared.


I know, kuya.  I need to sleep now.  I'll keep you posted on what we discussed.  I'll text you.


We ended on that note.  Aside from being a good brother to little bro, I can't help but feel flattered that he asked for my advise on his girl troubles.  I'm touched, hushkins =)